Well I was not sure about what could be my next thought here, to share with you people. But suddenly realized why not say about something that all of us know something about. Yes its nothing but loneliness.

I consider myself to be an expert of loneliness. I don’t say that with pride or satisfaction, but that’s just the way things have been for me. I can experience loneliness just as well in a crowded surrounding as in isolation. Sometimes it seems to even be a close friend of mine. There are times when it sort of pulls at your heart in such a sad, blue, painful, gut wrenching sort of way.

When I was a child, I often looked through the window, staring blankly at the stars. I kept wondering if there were people on other planets.



Through loneliness I have learned about the beauty and necessity of solitude. I have learned to do many things on my own that others would love to do. I could just walk alone where ever my feet takes me. Just sit alone in a beach listening to the sounds of the mighty sea. Dine alone to find pleasure in the peace and calmness. At times I meet other people who find pleasure in quietness just as I do. We glance and smile at each other, more or less saying ‘happy loner day’. Then we go back to our own solitude. Sometime not saying anything means much more.

There are many good things about loneliness. When you are alone, you can think everything without limitation, you can know more about your life. You can learn calmness from your loneliness. I can keep silent for weeks. I can talk with myself using my heart. I live in my own world that exits in my brain. It is full of peace and calm. I can hear the voice from my deep heart and I talk with it.

There was this time in my life when I forgot how to feel. My mind made an artificial shield, which made me impossible to bleed. Rejecting to feel things around, denying to feel the hurt. Suddenly when the shield ripped the ability to feel came back. The damage was severe and painful. It was the first test that life gave me and almost failed in that exam. But i lived on despite all the scars it left on. It changed the way I view life.

There are times when one needs to be lonely. May be it does feel sad and pathetic, but within that sad and pathetic feeling, we feel comfortable. Feeling lonely is much better than not feeling at all. There is this bitter sweet feeling in loneliness. Strange, but humans tend to enjoy this feeling. I do enjoy!

Well we all would turn off our computer when not in use! Most would find this to be a delayed process. Here are some approaches to make an instant one. Lets have a look at some of them:

• Press Ctrl+Esc or the win key and press U a couple of times( fastest one)

• Go to Download.com and download shutdown utility. This adds shutdown shortcuts for you

• Directly create a shortcut on your desktop. Now right click on the desktop and choose shortcut. Type shutdown-s-t00 in the area where you are asked to specify the location for the program file. Now you can turn off the computer by just double clicking on this icon. (Best location to place this icon would be quick launch bar)

• Open run window by pressing win key+ R key. Now type shutdown-s-t 00.

• Minimize all windows by pressing Win+M and then Alt+F4 to bring the turn off computer dialog box.

• Open task manager by pressing Alt+Ctrl+Del. Click shutdown and hold the Ctrl key and click on Turnoff. PC will be turned off in three seconds.

I was just expecting a spark to ignite ma blog once again after a long break and it can’t be better than LOVE the universal emotion !

Well what can i say about love? There are many ways to think or feel about love. People also express their love or feelings in many different ways! But what’s so ever love could be of two basis

• Chemical basis
• Psychological basis

Chemical basis:
Biological models of sex tend to view love as mammalian drive, much like hunger or thirst. Researchers divide the experience of love into three partly overlapping stages namely lust, attraction, and attachment.
Lust exposes people to others. It involves the increased release of chemicals such as testosterone and estrogen. These effects rarely last more than a few week or months. Attraction is the more individualized and romantic desire for a specific candidate, which develops out of lust as commitment to an individual. It involves the release of chemicals such as pheromones, dopamine, norepinephrine and serotonin, which stimulate the brain’s pleasure center leading to effects such as increased heart rate, loss of appetite and sleep, and intense feeling of excitement. This stage lasts from one and half to three years. Since lust and attraction are both considered temporary, the next level is needed to account for long-term relationships. Attachment is the bonding that promotes relationships lasting for many years. It is linked to higher levels of chemicals like oxytocin and vasopressin.

Psychological basis:
Psychology depicts love as a cognitive and social phenomenon. Psychologist argue that love has three different components namely intimacy, commitment, and passion.
Intimacy is a form in which two people share confidences and various details of their personal lives, and is usually shown in friendships and love affairs. Commitment, on the other hand is the expectation that the relationship is permanent. Last part is passion. Passionate love is shown in romantic love as well as infatuation.
All forms of love are viewed as varying combinations of these three components.


True factor?
Biological models of love tend to see it as a mammalian drive. Psychology sees love as more of a social n cultural phenomenon. There are probably elements of truth in both views.
Certainly love is influenced by hormones, but how people think n behave in love is influenced by their conceptions of love.


My take on love:
I would say I’ve been in love at least once but maybe not. Maybe I’m not old enough to know what it is, maybe I am. My point is that it is a confusing thing.
You always wonder if the other person likes or loves you. If they do, they would understand or do this or that and show you how they feel about you . Truth is though that love means different things for different people. I think love is knowing that no matter what, you’d do anything for the other person because they make you so happy n so wonderful that it’s the greatest feeling you’ve ever had! It is so important to you that you can’t think about anything else, and it becomes a natural thing to love that person. I think that is what love is, but the description of love is different for all of us. Some of us experience true, great love only once, and for others many times.
No matter what though we must keep in mind that love is very powerful, important, usually wonderful thing. People always have and always will have different opinions on what love is and how it should be shown, and what should be acceptable and what not acceptable. You just have to do what feels right to you and follow heart when it comes to love, no one can tell you, you are not in love or you are in love, you have to know what is right for you.
I believe that no matter how you express love or what you understand about love that when you find it you know its love, and that its right. I believe that if you find true love it is important to cherish it, embrace it and remember it. Sometimes you must let go love for whatever reasons and it may be the hardest thing to do, but just remember the good times and what you learned from that person and they will always be in your heart. Love is a great thing whether we understand it, know how it feels, or not.

The Monk who sold his Ferrari is a fable written by famous motivational writer Mr. Robin S. Sharma. This book through the medium of a fable tries to give some unique lessons for living a healthy and fulfilling life in present stressful world. Today’s world is running very fast and therefore most the people are not able to get time for their own betterment. We remain highly busy in achieving goals and earning money; however we forget to consider about health. Sometime, when people have everything in world, but unfortunately, they do not have health to enjoy all this. Although most of the principles dealt with can be found in countless other books on self help and spirituality, there is a difference in the way of Sharma has put things together.

The Monk who sold his Ferrari is a book written with the purpose in mind to educate people about giving full importance to all elements of life like health and peace. It focuses on the benefits of good health and peaceful life.

This well crafted story by Robin S Sharma is the tale of Julian Mantle, a lawyer brought face to face with a spiritual crisis. Julian’s spark of life begins to flicker. He embarks on a life-changing odyssey and discovers the ancient culture of India. During this journey he learns the value of time as the most important commodity and how to cherish relationships, develop joyful thoughts and live fully.

The eleven chapters are meticulously planned and flow seamlessly from one to the next. Julian Mantle, a very successful lawyer was the epitome of success. John, who is a friend as well as co-worker of Julian, narrates the story. He begins by describing Julian’s flamboyant life style. He has achieved everything that most of us would ever want: professional success with seven figure income, a grand mansion in a neighbourhood inhabited by celebrities, a private jet, a summer home on a tropical island and a shiny red Ferrari. Suddenly he has to come terms with the unexpected effects of his unbalanced lifestyle.

Julian Mantle collapses in the courtroom, sweating and shivering. His obsession with work has caused this heart attack. The last few years Julian had worked day and night without caring about his mental and physical health. That helped him become rich and successful lawyer but took a toll on his health and mental state. At fifty three he looked seventy and had lost his sense of humor . Julian refused to meet any of his friends and colleagues at the hospital. One fine day he quit his law firm and took off without saying where he was headed.

Three years passed without any news from Julian. One day he paid a visit to his friend and former colleague john, who was now a cynical older lawyer. But Julian, in the past three years, had been miraculously transformed into a healthy man with physical vitality and spiritual strength.

Following his heart attack Julian Mantle had sold all his property (yes his Ferrari too) and left for India. The author tells about Julian’s Indian odyssey, how he met the sages of Sivana who had a life changing effect on him. Julian Mantle shares his story of transformation, his secrets of a happy and fulfilling life with his friend John. Julian relates his experiences with yogi Raman the leader of sages of Sivana and the person who taught Julian his secret of a happy and fulfilling life.

This book stresses on the need of regular meditation, exercise and positive attitude, through which a person can achieve ultimate personality and look twenty years younger. Robin Sharma has presented number of facts very logically in the form of story. Book is able to maintain interest of its readers and definitely one can improve his life by maintaining a balance between health and work. All these qualities qualify this book for everyone’s personal library!